During my time, I didn’t have the one conversation that every girl need to have with her mom. I started my menstruation later after my younger sister, and this got me worried. I thought I was not “normal”, because apparently during my primary school science lesson, a girl is supposed to start her menses between the ages of 12-15 years.
By the time I was getting to that age, I had not started my menstruation. I did what any other scared child would do, I approached my mom and insisted she takes me to the hospital. Who later told me that just because my sister has already started her menses doesn’t mean that am not normal and urged that I just be patient, explaining that different people have different hormonal levels.
If only she had explained to me sooner, maybe I wouldn’t have felt so left out or in the dark. Start the conversation early and slowly build on your child’s understanding. Girls and boys need reliable information about menstruation. If your child doesn’t ask questions about periods, you can bring it up. By the time they’re 6 or 7 years old, most kids can understand the basics of periods.
First, ask if your child knows about periods. Then, you can share basic information, try and explain to the child the process in the simplest way possible so she can understand and not get frightened.
Most parents are dubious about having this conversation with their children and we all know it’s not the only topic parents are afraid of talking about. Sex is another discussion that I didn’t get to hear from my mother, the only thing my mother used to tell me is to be careful and not to play with the opposite sex, I think to her that was all I needed to know.
This two topics are essential to a girl while growing up. And she would like to hear it from her mother than going online and finding it out on her own. Technology might not be as harmful as earlier projected. It is like an online library, having small talks with your child is one of the most effective ways of having a strong bond with them and making them feel comfortable talking to you about anything and everything.
Maybe the reason as to why my mother and many mothers out there are so reluctant is because they are scared of how the child would react or maybe they are shy about the topic at hand, or maybe they are just scared that the child wouldn’t like talking to her about such issues.
Other mothers find this discussion helpful and necessary and they begin the conversation as early as 10 years. Education is powerful and the sooner this children are in the know the safer they would be.
The 21st century is even worse. Most parents are afraid of talking to their children because they feel like they already know too much. This children are exposed to everything. Making parents feel like the children can just google about how to use a pad and matters related to sex.
The only problems is that they don’t realize that for a child, getting to hear about this things from their parents make them feel “normal”, safe, loved and valued.